How to: play a male and why it's actually better than playing a female
Since we haven’t gotten many applications for our male roles in my roleplay, I’ve decided to make a list on why playing males is better than playing a female, and on how to play one in general. This is something that probably applies to female roleplayers, so apologizes to all male roleplayers out there.
Three reasons why you should play a male character:
- Most females in roleplays get overlooked, simply because there are (mostly) more of them than males, so when you’re playing a male, you’re more ‘special’ and more people want to plot and interact with you. Especially if you’re a shipwhore (like me), more people will want to ship their characters with your male character or develop a relationship with you.
- You have a penis! Okay, not you, but your character. Common, admit it, wouldn’t you want to be a boy for at least one day in your real life? Well, then you should try roleplaying one, because it’s almost the same as being one yourself.
- Most of the female roleplayers that don’t roleplay males are scared, that they’ll play the guy wrong, but there’s no such thing! Playing males is as easy as playing females, as long as you stick to the biography and the personality. Also, don’t be scared to try out something different - it’s always a new challenge and always a lot of fun.
Things to take in mind when playing a male:
- Be direct. Men tend to say what they mean and mean what they say. Instead of saying, “Do you guys feel like getting Indian food?” many men would more likely say, “Let’s get Indian.”
- Notice what men notice.If a woman comes down the stairs wearing a lavender silk wrap dress with a sequenced clutch and peep-toe Jimmy Choos, he’s going to note that she “looks hot in the purple dress.” Unless he works in the fashion industry, he won’t notice the rest.
- Use short phrases and real language. Let the words around the words convey the emotion.
- I’ve read stats that women say 20,000 words per day compared to men speaking only 7,000 per day. Just because they’re not talking out loud, doesn’t mean things are silent inside. So, there’s a bit more introspection with male leads. Though, you need to make sure it comes in short bursts, but that’s a whole ‘nother post.
- Men are more sight driven. Yep, what they see sticks in their minds. So, when writing a male POV, you’re going to be seeing a lot more. Come on, though, there are still feelings and thoughts going on, too, but most are stimulated by the sight of something.
- Details are not a male’s best friend. For the most part, men are not detail oriented. They tend to think big picture. That’s important to keep in mind when writing a male character. They aren’t going to detail how many inches above the girl’s knees her skirt is or what brand it is, only that he sees miles of sexy, long legs. It can help create some interesting situations, right?
- Has there ever been a time when you were sharing a heartache or hardship with the male in your life, and he just wanted to fix it when all you wanted was a hug and to be told how special you are? Instead he started giving suggestions on how to remedy the situation … Did that just bug you to no end? Well, that’s part of how men tick. They’re more logically driven. Want to fix things.
- Then there’s the whole smut thing — men connect more with physical touch whereas woman connect better emotionally. That opens the door to a plethora of interesting situations throughout a story. Here’s a small guide on how to a boy’s first time [x]. On writing smut from a male POV, goat-helps says, ‘u have a penis which is like a majestic unicorn dancing’.
- I would say the trick to writing the male POV is to listen, really listen, to the different men around you — how they talk, and what they say, and what they don’t say. In addition to putting on your listening ears, I suggest you to read books written by men in a male POV, like Beastly by Alex Flinn, . Take note of what the characters discuss, as well as the cadence of the sentences.
But let’s be honest, these are only general things to take in mind - in my opinion, the most important thing is, to stick to your biography. Your male character can even be the total opposite of what’s stated above, but it really isn’t that hard, and I really hope this has helped anyone.
Good luck and have fun with playing the D!
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