Oh, sounds like a tricky topic! First of all, I’d suggest you to do some research on domestic abuse, if you haven’t already. I did some quick research and here are some imporant things you should take in mind while writing your self-para:
- After each incident the abuser apologizes.
- Promises are made for rehabilitation attempts.
- The abuser blames the victim.
- After some thought he denies, minimizes or rationalizes his actions.
- He brings gifts and is very charming for a short while.
- Soon both parties forget the incident.
- No abuse takes place for a while.
- Tension starts to rise.
- Minor incidents like making mountains out of molehills begin.
- Communication breaks down.
- Victim and the family start being very careful around the abuser. “Walking on egg shells”
- Explosive episodes start and abuse –physical, sexual or emotional- occurs.
- Abusers may also show behaviors that seem to represent their own personal dynamics as behaviors they observed when the abusers were children, events within current or past relationships, or their evaluation of what they can lose at each episode.
Also, I think self-paras are more emotion based rather than action based like normal paras with other characters, so try to focus more on his/her emotions and feels. You could maybe write about your character being reminded of an incident and maybe how he/she feels guilty about what happened, or he/she’s probably being reminded because of an injury or something else. There are endless possibilities in my opinion, but if you need further help, don’t hesitate to ask again! :)
And again, this [x] guide on writing/playing a sexual abused character might help you, too.
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